This quiz will not fix your relationship. But it might explain a few things.
Everyone gives and receives love differently, and understanding your own love language is key to understanding yourself. This personality quiz goes beyond the clichés to find out both how you give love and how you receive love. Whether you are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, or Physical Touch in disguise, you will walk away feeling more understood, and more ready to connect. And since love exists on a spectrum, this love language quiz will give you more than just a single, top love language. It will rate how much of each of the 5 love languages affects how you give and receive love. Love doesn't have any rules, but it does have roadmaps. And this one starts here.
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If this quiz helped you understand how you give and receive love, continue your journey of self-discovery with our Am I In Love Quiz to see how your emotions play out in real connections. If you’re questioning whether you’re ready for something deeper, try our Are You Ready for Love Quiz for a practical reality check. And if you want to explore the softer, more spiritual side of your connection, take our Aura Quiz.
What kind of text makes your brain do a happy little backflip?
• I’m so proud of you.
• I got your favorite snack on the way home.
• A photo of a dumb inside joke from three years ago.
• I wish I could hug you right now.
• A calendar invite titled doing nothing together.
Pick the gesture that feels the most romantic to you:
• Someone holds your face for a second before kissing you.
• A handwritten note tucked somewhere only you’ll find.
• Carrying your groceries without asking.
• A spontaneous playlist sent with zero context.
• Sitting in silence together, but feeling completely connected.
Which of these would make you feel the most chosen?
• Someone noticing and naming your growth out loud.
• Someone doing a task you’ve been dreading without a hint.
• A surprise small gift that’s so you it feels psychic.
• Spending the whole day together just because.
• Pulling you in for a hug the second you walk in the door.
Which of these should be illegal in relationships (but isn’t)?
• Saying you’re too sensitive when someone opens up.
• Letting chores pile up until it becomes someone else’s problem.
• Forgetting meaningful dates because time isn’t real.
• Hanging out but staying glued to a screen.
• Flinching when you reach for their hand.
You get one perfect evening with your favorite person. What makes it unforgettable?
• Hours of deep conversation without looking at the time.
• They show up having planned everything so you don’t have to think.
• There’s a surprise gift that makes you feel wildly seen.
• There’s effortless physical closeness, like your bodies speak the same language.
• They tell you unprompted how much you matter to them.
What’s your Roman Empire (the thing you think about way too often)?
• That one compliment someone gave you years ago.
• The time someone folded your laundry without being asked.
• A gift that was so perfect it made you cry.
• A long night drive where no one said much but everything felt okay.
• The time someone hugged you just a little longer than usual.
How do you act when you’re starting to really like someone?
• You hype them up like it’s your full-time job.
• You offer to help with little things before they even ask.
• You start saving memes, songs, and trinkets just for them.
• You want to be near them, constantly and casually.
• You clear your schedule to make space for them.
What’s the best thing someone could do for you when you’re having a horrible week?
• Say exactly what you didn’t know you needed to hear.
• Handle errands or chores so you don’t have to.
• Leave a little care package at your door.
• Sit with you while you watch garbage TV in silence.
• Pull you into a hug and just stay there.
Your person comes home looking like they’ve had the worst day. What’s your move?
• Ask them to talk about it and listen without fixing.
• Start running a bath or making food before they even ask.
• Give them a small surprise that might lift their spirits.
• Sit beside them and just let them be until they’re ready.
• Pull them close and don’t let go until their shoulders drop.
You’re dating someone long-distance. What keeps you going?
• Long phone calls where they say everything you needed to hear.
• Surprise deliveries that prove they’re thinking of you.
• Knowing they’d drop everything if you really needed them.
• Planning the next time you’ll see each other, even if it’s months out.
• Talking about what it’ll feel like to hold them again.
Your personal red flag, but make it camp:
• You overthink every word in a text and then never send it.
• You’d rather do everything yourself than let someone disappoint you.
• You accidentally drop hints until someone gives you a present.
• You pretend you don’t care but get hurt when people cancel plans.
• You say you’re fine but clearly just want to be held.
What does feeling safe mean to you?
• Being spoken to with honesty and care.
• Knowing someone will show up even when it’s inconvenient.
• Seeing evidence that someone’s thinking about you when you’re not around.
• Having time together that’s low-pressure but full of intention.
• Being able to reach out and feel someone there, literally.
You run on language like it’s fuel. A well-timed compliment can undo a week’s worth of spiral, and a careless word can echo for years. You notice subtext, tone, punctuation, all of it, and when someone really sees you through what they say, it hits like lightning. You don’t want empty flattery, just truth wrapped in kindness. You deserve to hear what’s already true about you: you matter, even when no one’s saying it out loud.
You don’t trust words until they’re backed by action. Love, to you, looks like someone doing the thing so you don’t have to ask twice. You notice effort most when it’s quiet and unglamorous, and you give that same energy back in tenfold. You’re not cold, just tired of people who say a lot and show up little. You don’t have to earn devotion by being useful. You’re allowed to rest and still be loved.
You see the world in symbols, and nothing says you’re seen like something you can hold in your hand. You remember the exact shape of that rock someone gave you in third grade, and yes, you still have the note. It’s not about the price tag. It’s about the moment it meant something. You are not materialistic. You are sentimental as hell, and that’s not a flaw.
Presence is your love language. Nothing hits like someone putting their phone down just to be with you, fully, no distractions. You don’t need a big production, just a shared moment that feels like the world stopped for a second. You crave connection in its purest form, even if you pretend to be fine with crumbs. You deserve someone who doesn’t just make time for you. They want to.
Your body remembers what your mind sometimes forgets: you are real, and you are here. Nothing grounds you like the warmth of someone’s hand in yours, or the weight of a head on your shoulder. It’s not about sex. It’s about closeness, about safety, about knowing you’re not alone in your skin. Let someone hold you. You don’t have to carry it all by yourself.
